How to Build Confidence in Kids For Parents

This post provides ‘How Parents can build confidence in their Kids’.

Read on to learn more.

a millenial happy mom playing with her two kids. she is encouraging them to learns new things, hence building confidence in the kids. the kids are excited making shapes out of huge balls of pumpkins. this will help them to confide in their parent, increase thier spirit and remove fears and doubt.

What is confidence?

Confidence is defined as a belief in one’s self, and one’s ability to succeed. Confidence is a state of mind which involves positive thinking, morale, and determination.

No child is born unconfident.

How to build confidence in kids

Building your child’s confidence is very relevant in strengthening and striking a healthy family balance. Below are some best ways you can start building confidence and self-esteem in your kid.

1.         Always Make Time:

Yeah!! You are always busy; you need to work to take care of your child, you are so stressed. I don’t have the time. My work is demanding. These are some challenges we face as parents.

As a parent, you get occupied with your jobs and activities! No matter how busy you are, it is very important to create time for your kid to build a bond.

Putting your child first, before everything else is an excellent way of building your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.

How as a parent, it is advised to take the time to schedule activities with your child that can help with the process of building their confidence.

You may not have all the time due to work or tight schedules but you could take them to do something they are good at or maybe even take them to try something new.

This will show them that they are talented which can increase their confidence and self-esteem.

An example could be taking a child to the park for a game of ball or accompanying them to talent shows that will allow them to show their knowledge of things, and also show how impressed you are.

2.         Don’t Be Too Hard

As a parent, you may sometimes feel the guilt of not knowing what your midpoint is. Are you being too easy or too hard on your child?

However, you may want not to be too easy on your child. But, it is also important not to be too tough on your child as well.

Being too easy on your child can be tricky sometimes, you will likely not instill proper morals in a child or teach them to be responsible.

On the other hand, if you are too tough it may likely lead to low self-confidence because your child will feel as if they never do anything right or do not know how to please you.

As a parent, you must find the middle ground and be equal to your discipline. Every child will not respond to the same type of parenting.  So, it is important to experiment and see what works best when it comes to building your child’s confidence.

3.         Be a Positive Role model

As a parent to set it is your job to be a positive example for your child and to be a role model. A huge personality trait that your child will likely learn from you is your level of self-confidence.

It is important, never to talk negatively about yourself in front of your child because this will likely cause them to develop the same habit. Always try to have the situation under control and that you completely believe in yourself in front of your kid.

4.         Watch Out For Bullies

Bullying is becoming increasingly more popular.  This stems from the fact that kids can bully each other at any time and place, thanks to social media.

Bullying is one of the quickest ways a child’s self-confidence can be destroyed.

Your bullied kid may oftentimes suffer from low confidence in themselves; to try to feel better, they try to lower others’ confidence as well.

This is a reason why you must watch out for the signs of your child being bullied and put an immediate end to it.

If you notice any of these red flags take action immediately!

  • Suddenly withdraw from  going to school
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Fear
  • Less Social Interaction
  • Not seeming Like Themselves
  • Not wanting to talk about their day  at school

5.         Let Your Child Know You Believe In Them

Believing in your kid is a very simple task to do and requires little effort. However, many people may be unsure of how to perform this step effectively and may not have an idea of where to begin.

Are you one of these people? If the answer is yes do not worry, children do not come with guidebooks.

There are many several ways you can let your child know you believe in them. By dedicating enough effort and time, you will be able to find activities that greatly improve your child’s confidence while showing that you believe in them.

If you do not know where to start, here are a few examples are provided below:

  • Encourage Your Child to Try New Things

Kids love to try new things, and encouraging your child to try something new is an excellent way of building their confidence and showing them that you fully believe in their abilities to accomplish something.

Pay attention to the little things your child tells you, especially when it comes to what they would like to do but do not feel that they would be any good at it.

Use this situation as a way to show you believe in them by encouraging them to try. Always tell them how much you believe in them and that they can do anything they set their mind to.

  • Push Them Out of Their Comfort Zone

A child stuck in a comfort zone usually has slimmer chances of building their self-confidence than a child who is always challenged to do something new.

Teaching your kids to challenge themself will greatly improve their self-confidence, at the same time you also need to show them that you believe they can do anything.

  • Brag about Your Child

Bragging about your child is a great way of building your kid’s confidence and showing them that you believe in them.

This is great if the bragging is done in front of them. Tell other people about their accomplishments and the things you think they will achieve in the future as this will surely boost their confidence.

6. Acknowledge Achievements and Fears

Acknowledging your child’s fears and achievements plays an important role in helping your child develop a healthy level of self-confidence. This is especially true when your kids overcome their fear to accomplish something.

No matter how little that task, your child will greatly benefit from you acknowledging their accomplishment.

7. Teach them to Learn from Errors

There is no perfect person in this world. Everyone makes mistakes and errors at times. The important thing is that we learn to learn lessons from our mistakes.

These lessons should keep us from making future mistakes of a similar type. It is all part of the growing process.

This process of learning from mistakes is the same for a child who needs to build self-confidence. You must teach your child not to be too hard on themselves when they make a mistake.

You should also teach them to always look at the situation from a logical standpoint and determine the things that they could have done differently to get a more desirable outcome.

A happy mom carrying her child all fille with colour paints on their body. She is with her kid at a paint centre to encourage her kid try new things. she is her role mode and believes in her kid. no matter what she is determined to build confidence in her kid as a parent

8. Learn to Accept Who Your Child Is

There are certain things your child can not change about themselves. As a parent(s) you just have to accept them if you ever want your child to be happy and have high levels of self-confidence.

Some examples of such situations are:

  •  Sexuality
  • Likes and Dislikes
  • Strengths and Weaknesses

9. Take an Interest in Your Child’s Life

As your kids go through the stages of growth and development, you need to be actively involved in their lives.

This provides opportunities for growth and the formation of a healthy relationship if you want them to be full of confidence and be successful.

Spending time with your child is of great relevance and it’s all that this step requires.

Engage in some activities with your child that they enjoy and use this time to learn more about your child’s life.

The more you know about what is going on in your child’s life the better you will be able to help them in building their confidence.

10. Provide Opportunities for Positive Growth

Being involved in your child’s life shows them how much you truly care for them and at the same time builds their self-worth and self-confidence.

You may need to ask your child questions about their life and how they feel about the thing going on in their lives.

You may also figure out the areas where you can help them to build their confidence and open new opportunities for them during these discussions.


As a parent, having a healthy amount of involvement without trying to invade your child’s life is a great and perfect recipe for a happy family and a confident child.

A healthy family relationship helps to nurture and makes your child more likely to open up to you about their life.

When your kid is open with you they will tell you what is holding their confidence back which allows you to help them gain their confidence back and be successful.